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Indian Family Problem.?

Hi Friends, I am quoting a typical family problem from India, we are two brothers me being elder. I have always loved and cared for my younger brother all through out his school and high school life. I went ahead to purchase for him gifts and luxuries which even i never bought for myself. Our family went through very rough weather regarding finance for the last 10 years and I have tried all possibilities to provide monetary support to my family for these years. My Dad lost his job due to physical disability and still Today he is working in a very small organisation to meet his own costs.Its still not in very good shape but atleast we are making our ends meet as a middleclass family. But my brother has grown up and is in college now. For the last few months I am been neglected by my parents, and mere issues about food and behavior has made me very depressed. With all hardwork and compromising all my happiness for my family's financial condition, i feel I am being deprived by my own ones. I bileave in indian society , younger son do deserve a better affection from mother but it has moved to an extent that, I am sometimes feel my contribution is only to carry on as a tamed donkey. I donot want to hurt the feelings of my family and also feel some solution should comeout for my generosity. If any one has similar feelings and has comeout of it, your words of wisdom is very wellcome to me. Hope to hear from you friends. Regards

Public Comments

1. Forgive your parents bro n everybody,you can only conquer bad with good.There is only one author of good and that is in the person of Christ Jesus.N when one comes to him he/she has to accept to relinquish every other believe n give his/her life to his service.Know what?He gives eternal life n peace to whomever believes in Him.This is my personal experience n not an awkward story from somewhere.Seek to find Him n have a personal experience that will outlast all the shadows of life like the ones you have passed through.Read Holy Bible n you will get answers for each n every quagma in life.
2. I can appreciate your feelings of neglect or lack of appreciation for your attitude and efforts you made in the past, because I also faced similar situation in the past, being the eldest. But you should remember, what ever you did for your family is out of your love and affection and you thought it as your duty. It was not a business investment which should start giving you returns. Your parents should be the real judge, knowing the abilities and limitations of you both brothers. Pl therefore do not sulk, and be cheerful that you are in a position to serve the family in need. Best wishes.
3. Never have such dedication and sacrifice. Always keep fine account for what money you make and spend on others for family commitment. None of them, especially your younger brother might not recognise your contribution or sacrifice. Live your life while supporting others without hurting your interest. Never be a fool and fooled by others. Do not worry about love and affection more on your younger brother by your family. Be a nice, strong, self confident, capable man with compassion but strong direction and convictions.
4. Dear Saikat. I think you should not feel bad for this, In fact i'm very proud of you that you have done so much for your younger brother, around 2 - 3 years back even i used to think that younger ones are always the pet of parents but its different case they love the elder one more but the small fellow should'nt feel bad thats it for what they give more attention to the younger one so just remove the thought thats worrying you, and chill coz god is always with people who give and dont expect any rewards ok dude.... GOD BLESS YOU.
5. "Neki kar darya mey dal". (Do virtuous things and put them in river). The error you have made is you counted them before putting in the river in the false hope that you will get rewarded equivalently. It never happens that way. You can get them back only be negative actions which will add to your sufferings. The more you think about rewards, results, fruits of what you have done the more depressed and frustrated you will become and will further estrange the already strained relations. You have a choice of thinking about yourself and building your future and career from today. Forget about what has past which cannot be undone and launch into your future as a new person. Success is yours. Those who disregarded you will come to you attracted like a magnet. After all family life is putting this together and not going away from the center. If you can do that continue with the Karma Yoga you have practiced hitherto. Minus sulkiness, you are proving that it can be practiced in material life also. with best wishes.