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I am only 17 and I want to know how I can stop worrying about who I will be married to?

Please do not give a bad answer like "oh someone right will come along and race doesn't matter". To me it does. Yesterday I was told that I had been accepted into Yale University, read the fat envelope and the mood was that of excitement. My mother was extremely proud of me and my father said he was happy of the opportunity of raising a "hard working individual". Problem is I was happy but then I started being worried about my future life. I have an attraction towards Latinas and Asian women but I have heard that they are not attracted to Indian guys (India) and that when I make a lot of money I will be forced to date and marry a White Blonde girl (which is a huge turn off for me). I sometimes become worried that I will become just like another Indian guy and that I may end up marrying a White girl. Thing is, I don't really hate White people at all, my good friends are White but White girls are just a huge turn off for me. Culturally speaking (White American) and looks wise (Blonde and redhead), White women are just a big turn off for me. Another problem is that I live in a deep south town where everyone is either Black or White. I have not run across many Hispanics and Asians and it kind of hurts me to know that there is an Asian girl or Hispanic girl out there waiting for me but I will never get to see her because I am in this deep south hick town (with a lot of racism). I am worried that I may not even get the opportunity to marry a Latina or an Asian girl because I live in America (majority White country) and I really would love it if I can get past this stress. Please do not give me crap answers like "oo race is just a label" or "look past her race and ethnicity" because that is something I will not do. Can anyone give me some better advice?

Public Comments

1. Yes ... you're 17. Don't worry about marrying anyone right now. Give it a decade. I'm sure you'll run into a few fine minority girls in that time. In the meantime calm down.
2. Sooner or later, you will clash with your parents. You're the one who will be living your life with whoever you marry, so for the sake of your happiness you will have to show your parents you are serious and make your own choice of partner. You will meet someone Latina/Asian if it is your fate in life. Make the chance to travel at some point in your life. Maybe follow an exchange program, join clubs etc, take language classes for asian/latina languages. You never know who you will fall in love with though.... Do you mind if I ask you a question? Why do your parents want you to marry a "white, blonde girl" some kind of racial inferiority complex?
3. I know how you feel. When I got accepted to Princeton, I was extremely happy for an hour, then started worrying about my future. I was always worried about my future. It's a normal thing, just do your best to make your dreams true.
4. lol man alright this is my advice.. ur young and you are stressing this a lot! .. u got many years to come.. your going to a great school which im pretty sure may have mix people there.. asians..latinas.. whatever ur into.. right now concentrate on making all those good grades..relax.. since u say ur gunna be making some good money.. u cn go travel the world and meet a girl of "your dreams" the world is ur limit.. dont think of it as just ur hometown.. cusz ull probably one day end up somewhere and u meet a girl ur really into and bam! ull be married and soon ur gunna be stuck with the same women for the rest of your life.. i say enjoy ur youth.. and go around places.. especially here in new york city where i live.. man ull find more than just whites here.. latinas..asians.. anything here man.. i recommend to come to the city.. hope this helped btw.. latinos are the largest minority so dont sweat it!
5. No one is going to force you to marry a white girl. If that happens, it'll be because you find a white girl who is attractive to you. So calm down about that part. Go to Yale. There will be all sorts of people there. I live in the deep south, too. The town I grew up in only had black and white people and when I was a kid, I actually thought those were the only two categories people fell into. The town I live in now has a very diverse population with people of all colors from very different backgrounds. America isn't all either black or white. When you get to a bigger place, or sometimes even just a different area, the demographics change. It seems to you that you will never find the sort of girl you're looking for because you'll never get a chance to see anyone who isn't either black or white, but you're young. That's been your whole life so far, but you've only lived a small part of it. Holy crap, man! You got accepted to Yale! (congrats on that) You can go anywhere you want. Go there. Work hard. Get out and you can marry a girl you meet there or you can go get a job anywhere in the world. There might not be a white girl within fifty miles of you ten years from now.
6. Okay, I'm having a little difficulty understanding your problem. If you don't find yourself attracted to the "all-america-girl" type then it's simple, don't marry her. I would have to say that race is not just a label and that it is important. The reason I think this is because if you marrry someone of the same race, you are less likely to fight over values, how to rais your children, culture and so on. That's not to say that one shouldn't marry someone outside of their race but rather that marrying someone of the same race is easier. However, from what you wrote you are interested in an asian girl...meaning someone outside your your race (Indian?). Therefore, it's simply a question of attraction not whether or not you should marry someone of the same race. Bottom line is, if you are not attracted to them in any way, why would you marry them? Just because you live in America does not mean anything. Open your eyes. There are so many people of different races in America. There isn't much advice to give, in my opinion. You'll meet the girl for you and unless you are in an arranged marriage, you do not HAVE to marry a blonde girl. I don't see what the big problem is. :$
7. One day unexpectedly, you'll meet that girl you always anticipated marrying. You'll be just as bewildered as you are about being excepted into Yale. Congratulations,I can't wait for my "Accepted"acceptance statement, from my college of choice.