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Troubling Sis in LAw?

My Sis in law is very much a problem for me? Since my marriage she has made many problems for me. But I just leave it away. But when she started to make problems and poke her nose in all my family issues, it really tensed me. I told the whole thing to my husband. He told me that since she's the youngest and the only daughter in the family, she's pampered. He asked me to just take everything easily. But she doesn't do such things to the elder bro's wife. Later on I came to know that she has the problem of depression and that's why the family doesn't hurt her. But what I understand is that, there is no reaon for her to be depressed. She was pampered by her family and given all the things she asked for. Her husband buys and shops for her all the expensive products in the mall. He's very simple and loving towars his wife and child. Even in the case of money, they have what they wanted. I don't understand what is the problem with her? She imitates the way I use makeup. She buys clothes similar to me. Sometimes she asks my husband to buy the same clothes for her which he bought for me. Even she imitates the jewellery I wear. She fights & creats an emotional scene in front of me with her husband, to buy her some items same like me. I feel really frustrated by this girl. She loves and cares for the elder brother's wife and kids. LAst time I went to India, she created a lot of probs for me and included my mom in law and father in law. For this reason, now they are also treating me very badly. And the probs she made was just happened only because she lied. My husband's brother's wife came to know all these and she understood that she was lying. But what to do..... even she can't help me... coz she's also staying in there together with inlaws. She applogised to me that she can't help. When my husband came to know all these, he fought with his sister and asked mom to explain to her. But i came to know that mom & dad are on her side. LAter on she told me that she done all these coz she was really depressed. Than things turned out to be normal. But few days back my husband's brother's wife told me that the story of depression is just a lie. Actually my sis in law is not having any kind of disease. the doctor whom she went after all the heck she made in the home told my husband's brother's wife........ So I came to know that this girl is really giving me a hard time purposely. What will I do to handle this girl? My only relief is my husband. He understands me.. What should i do to keep a good relation with her?

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Avoid meeting or neglect her completly.
hey i think u should be normal with her. when she'll see that there is no affect of her behaviour on u. then may be she'll stop that and the most important point is that ur husband is with u... so dear u need not to worry shez having her own family and u r having ur own if she wants to have the same thing as u r having then let it be.. don't get irritate in front of her she'll get pleased ur postivie point is that ur husband is with u and dear u need only ur husband as ur parents-in-law will not point out any mistake in their daughter so just chill and be happy with ur husband
completely ignore her until she gives up on what she is doing.
This situation is pretty common in Indian joint family set-up. You cant make any one happy, even if you give your life. They are problematic cases and enjoy what they do. Do not dare to reform them. I feel ignoring is the best option. The more you will try to establish good relations with this lady, the more you would find your life messed up. The other person starts taking these kind gestures as your weakness. So better don't care about her. Try to be neutral and POLITICALLY CORRECT most of the time.Your Sis in law is getting temperamental feedback from your reactions at a given time. So when you wont react she will be pondering and finding new strategies to infuriate you. So just don't care that she exists in this world and you know silence speaks louder than words.
I don't know if your sister in law has depression or not. I do know it isn't about material things that make you depressed. It is a chemical in balance. She may have something else going on and her parents, just like most parents, are trying to take care of her and protect her. Since she is copying you and imitating everything you do, then this means she admires you. This is a form of flattery. I know it can be annoying. She is obviously not happy with something in her life. We don't know how things really are behind closed doors. I think it is great that your husband recognizes this and is on your side and confronts his sister. This makes it a lot easier. You know how she can be, so don't take what she says or does seriously.
She appears to be in her teens... You just recall your own days of teen-age... and your attitude towards other family members... you will find a resemblance with her… Usually there are problems found between sister and wife of a man... She thinks that you have snatched her brother from her on whom she had the sole right before you married him... Be friendly with her... Take her along with you while going for shopping...buy something for her whenever you get anything for you... Remove feeling of envy from her mind in respect of possessiveness of both of you for your poor man (hubby)... Take it easy... Just behave like an elder... As if she is a younger sister to you... I am sure she will turn to be a good companion for you… because you are a good human being…
It is good that your husband loves you and supports your thoughts. Your problem is not a problem at all. If you are dignified then you wont think of such silly things. If she wants to look like you then whats wrong in it. May be you are too good for her to imitate you. People imitate actors, do the actors get embarassed. NO, coz they like when somebody likes their style. Keep yourself busy in other things. Act as if you have a big heart and you dont care about minor things. If you are always good to her then I am sure one day she will realize that you are a selfless character and she might become a nice peson.
jus tel to ur husband ur problem he wil take care of her so u keep quiet and say ur husband
YOu and your husband should live separately.
u have the greatest asset in life ,ur husband. dont irritate that man to the extent he runs away from u .give her so much importance, i mean act. that she gets frustrated to be rude to u, and keep low profile in front of her.
hey i think u should be normal with her
Hi ! Your Sister in law is actually feeling jealous of your love towards his brother that is your husband. She is having a feeling of insecurity that you will have to work on her. Let her know that you care. Share your feelings with her. Be a friend to her. I am sure the things will work out. You get only one life to live. Do not live with Regrets for the things not done, Feelings not expressed & difference not made. Good Luck !