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Extramarital relation,please help.I’m 29 yrs old. I’m a mom of two kids aged 5 and 4mnths.My life was going ?

very happy as I’m blessed with and married to a very good responsible husband. But unfortunately two month before my hubby aged 36yrs fell into adultery with my maternal uncle’s wife who’s is aged 32yrs.We are settled in UAE, My maternal uncle (aged 40) and wife stay just 3kms away from our house and my maternal uncle stays with his elder brothers family (This family and my relation with maternal uncles are just the same as I love my parents. Maternal uncle’s brother is aged 58 and his wife aged 49.)We often visited there and my family did had a good relation with them, truly speaking very much attached from the past 9yrs.whtever happiness we had we shared with their family. Now it’s the 6th yr of our married life. And my maternal uncles 9th yr.My maternal uncle’s wife and my hubby are brought up in northern India and so their culture, language, attitude, views are almost the same and my self and my maternal uncles was brought up very conservatively but we have good loving spouses and had very good family life. But suddenly from the past two months my hubby and my uncles wife was having an affair which started by sending emails. like quotes, music lyrics and they started talking on phone and it improved to meeting each other outside on the car parking and its lead to physical touch, but my hubby said he /herself didn’t had an intercourse as they didn’t indented to go that extend or even thought of .My hubby said he just don’t know how they fall for each other and how they did all these. I caught this once he was emailing to someone and hiding from and he said to me everything and asked me to forgive and he said he loves me a lot and now realizes his mistake. At the same time I talked with my uncle’s wife and she too said that she didn’t really indented to hurt me and asked me to forgive and they will not repeat. Now I’m really confused and my spouse relationship make me worried, but I love him a lot as he is very good husband by all means and very responsible parent and he is very good in all like work, willingness to help and same is with my uncles wife.Wht should I do now. I can forgive my hubby, how should I regain the trust and how should I go again happily with my marriage. Should I keep a distance with my uncle’s family? Pls advice.

Public Comments

1. Wow...can you say Inbred Jed? How about do you hear the banjo playing in the background? Would you like a little moonshine with that?
2. You should distance yourself from EVERYONE who was involved in this disgusting game, or was aware of it and did nothing about it.
3. Does your uncle know? If not, tell him. I would insist on marriage counseling and stay away from your uncle and his wife until your marriage is solid again. Your husband must understand he is to have nothing to do with this woman. Nothing!
4. I am very sorry you have to go thru this. Unfortunately, sometimes people can't help the intense attraction they have for each other. I know, many others will tell you to ditch him immediately, but I would not. Let him realize that what you two have is to good to lose. If that helps, the other woman is in even more pain then you. At least you have him. She doesn't and she never will. If you really love him, give him a chance.
5. Your husband is going to have to prove to you that he is "worthy" and that he won't stray like this again. He is going to have to make some sacrifices to help you regain trust. Maybe he can give you his email password, etc. to help you with this. Also, it's a GREAT idea to stay away from your uncle and his wife. You should really have no contact with them since your husband and her "fell" for each other. Whether or not they're lying about intercourse, I don't know. Just go with your gut feelings on this. If your husband is sorry, he will help you get through this by doing whatever makes you feel more comfortable and trusting of him.
6. There is no easy solution. He broke your trust, it will take him a long time to regain it. Definately you both should stay away from your uncles & aunt's house, as they are not to be trusted around eachother. Insist that he have no contact with her via phone or email. It's a miserable situation, it's up to you if you can forgive him or not, either way, I wish you happiness!
7. Hi How r u? "Keep / Make everything for both of u" "Whatever happened is happened, Don't worry 2 much about that" First you have to check root of the cause, why it happened? how it happened? You mentioned that both husband & uncle wife too said that she didn’t really indented to hurt me and asked me to forgive and they will not repeat. Then how it happened? When you noticed the matter, they realised ? No Never !!! Both are in one line to a point, but you interrupted. They we're planning something themselves, without your knowledge, because both of them are hungry, they actually not getting what they required. So they planned, without hurting the relations / social siqma. That is the root. Why you married? or he married you? Whatever the things intends in the marriage should be provided each other according to the needs. Then there is no hijacking. This is not happening in most of the married life. Ladies / some men marry for social, not for them. Please understand that you married for your husband & he married for you only. Both should give / do according to needs of the wishes. Don't run away from that, then no problem will happen. Now dont tell your uncle, try to away from that family for while (without any contact) you + your hus. Thanks
8. You need to assert yourself. Good luck dear.
9. Sorry! to tell you but once he has stayed it will likely happen again. That's why this group was set up. If you don't want to leave your Hubby then you can always release stress with this group. It may be a double life or a Break from Reality, but so is you trying to live inside yourself as well as outside. We both know your feeling on the inside will always have doubt. It just being human. Good luck and don't let your mind hold your stress instead release it in a way that will give you pleasure.