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BLACK WOMEN ARE FULL OF IT....?

All I hear from them is that Black Men aren't worth s**t & that they are disloyal & that the second they get successful they dont want anything to do with black women. That they are insecure, can't handle a black woman & hate themselves, so they find love elsewhere. If this is the case & black men are so horrible, why are black women among the highest group of individuals without maritable spouses. I want to keep this all the way 100%, I love black women. Repeat, I love black women. My mother is black, my sisters are black, my cousins, nephews, neices, aunts, uncles & grandparents are black. I dont think I ever had a non-black individual in my family. Because of this I have a sense of my heritage. But, I dont just date black women, I am attracted to all different types of women be it black, white, latin, indian, asain. Though I would love to find a beautiful black woman to marry, I just dont get the feeling like I am going to. To be honest, I am a little dissapointed with yall. All the time I hear how black men who get successful & date outside of their race are jerks but, those are usually the same dudes who the ladies didn't pay much attention to early on. In highschool, me & several of my friends didn't get plenty of attention from the black girls that we were interested in (and this ranged from ghetto girls to suburban types), they all were pretty much interested in the bad boys. But, as time goes on the bad boy ditches the girl & the intelligent males go to college, becomes successful, get a good job & now the same women want to pay him attention after she dissed him for so long. This happened to me & because of that early on, I expanded my dating pool. So how am I a sellout because I decided to date all types of women versus one when my specific race of women weren't paying me much attention. I feel like that shit is hypocritical.....I think the main reasons why black men marry outside of their race are: 1. Majority of the successful men weren't that desirable early on (In highschool most girls, dont want the nerdy, nice, easy going kid, they prefer the bad boy, but, in 10 years time, the bad boy is working at IHOP & the nice, easy going kid usually has a six figure job & itz only then that woman wants him) 2. They're just attracted to other types of women 3. They cant deal with CERTAIN black women's attitude (and please dont give me that strong black female bulls**t, a man doesn't care if you work, have your own life, make you own decisions & crap, thats all cool, itz when your always yelling, catching attitudes & getting in your man's face everychance you get, if a man wanted a woman like that, he basically shouldve just married a man) 4. They usually have alot of baggage (lol, I cant even front, most black men have this as well) 5. The dont know how to let a man be a man....they want to control every aspect of the relationship (refer to #3) 6. They want alot but, dont have much to offer (one time I was riding with a few girl friends of mine & they just talked like I wasn't even there. And one girl was saying how she doesn't even look a dude if he doesn't make over a certain amound of $. That he needs money, a nice car, a nice body, did I say money, o yea, he gotta have money, he gotta take me shopping, he need a big house & on & on & on....basically everything that love isn't really about. Then I asked myself what does this girl have to offer to anybody, I know for a fact she's a career baby momma) AGAIN NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS....IT JUST SEEMS LIKE IT SOMETIMES THERE ARE GOOD ONES OUT THERE....THEY ARE JUST FEW & FAR BETWEEN All Im saying is you can't call your brothers, cousins & sons sellouts if this is what is out there for them. This is just some advice from one of your own. If you are tired of your own dating & marrying outside of the race, maybe you shouldn't exhibit some of the characteristics of the women I stated above. Maybe you shouldn't date knuckleheads & get pregnant by them. Maybe you should chase after the one who wants to make something of himself. Maybe you should let down your G.I Jane, Take no Prisoners forcefeld & show people your feminine side for once. Maybe you should find somebody you are compatible with versus what they have. And last but, not least, if you can't beat em, join em.........

Public Comments

You seem to have strong opinions on this topic. Interracial marriage is an intresting sociological aspect to study. I'm white and dated a black guy in high school so i think it goes both ways. I think you should keep in mind though that because society is becoming so much more biracial and is the melting pot, is more likely for folks to merry outside their race. I think that what you're saying does happen more often then it should but thats because those people are just insecure and shallow and not worth marring anyway if they don't like their own race.
Just be happy with your choice in women and don't worry about what others think about your choice. Both me and my ex husband are black and dated outside our race before we were married and are doing the same now that we are divorced. As long as his girlfriend is kind and maternal to my children, I don't care what race she is. He says he feels the same. By the way, we divorced for MANY reasons. Drug and alcohol abuse as well as being underemployed and purposely blowing the only employment opportunity he had to step up and help me insure our family's financial future was secure was sabotaged because it was inconvenient. He blew a drug test for a career that would have helped our family tremendously financially. He was fine with me working two jobs because he didn't want to do anything "back breaking" or "hard". He never finished college although he had 10 years to do so during our marriage. Every situation is different. That was mine. But I'm not on here blaming black men and making blanket statements about them. I just stated the facts about the one I was married to for almost 11 years.
for every 1 good black guy there are 100 bad ones( if u don't like the stereotype oh well stereotypes are from the truth!) most black women date black men but were treated wrong especially when it comes to cheating! But they won't give other guys chances and then when another one comes along they think oh he's just like the rest! U have to be persistent and prove to them ur different!! It doesn't really differ with any other race! That's just how life is!